Retroactive Reciprocity:
The
Messiah came too late
Now
it’s God who has to wait
For
while He cooked up His Great Plan
The
burden fell to Common Man.
What
we salvage of His Word
Helps
us cope with the Absurd.
That
which He has careless written
By
contrast, our hand at last has
Smitten.
That
which He has set in motion
Owes
him no longer devotion.
Stronger
for his absence leaves
No
man naive who lonely grieves.
All
the prayers that went unheeded
All
because God never heard
Made
it clear that He conceded
To
us every careless Word.
Dm.A.A.
You know, there is one refuge I
have found in all of this. I had forgotten it, but it’s something I must fall
back upon. I should be proud of my virginity, since I equate it with moral
superiority.
Now, if you disagree, do hear me
out. It’s actually very simple and self-evident.
One might wonder: what does
sexuality have to do with morality? I mean: clearly if being a good person does
not guarantee that I will lose my virginity, then why must losing my virginity
make me a worse one? Yet, as an egalitarian, it should be obvious that it must
be one or the other. It’s precisely BECAUSE so many good people might go their
whole lives without once having known sex, for entirely nebulous and absurd
“reasons”, with absolutely no promise of reprieve, that we must retain this one
silver lining. The world does not revolve around the ego of the person who
surrenders morality in order to have a higher chance at getting laid; that
person makes a sacrifice, and that’s what sex should be regarded as. Yes: to
the narcissist, it’s only logical that sex and morality should be entirely
divorced from one another; recognizing that morality cannot be employed as a
means to a satisfying end, the egoist regards it as inferior but seeks thereby
to retain it once the end is met. But being fair means that there has to be
SOME sort of compensation. Either being good entitles you to having sex, or not
having sex makes you better. It doesn’t get more liberal than that. Besides:
it’s not like people who ARE moral consistently can be convicted of the same
egoism; morality must be regarded as transcendent if it is to be effective, and
since all people benefit from being treated as equals, it’s in our nature to be
moral.
With Alanna, there was an unspoken
understanding, even before she confessed the extent of her sins to me, that the
experiential superiority she had to me was counterbalanced by the moral
superiority I had to her; in this way, and ONLY in this way, we retained the
fundamental equality which we had when we first met, as virgins. The very
moment she gained one leg up over me (vulgar pun intended?) she lost the other.
Sex was a trade, (pardon the term “sex trade”) and people must remember that
it’s called LOSING one’s virginity FOR a REASON. People who try to talk around
this problem want to call the loss of one’s virginity a “sexual debut”. But
certainly for many people this debut never comes. We don’t have to live good
lives DESPITE this fact; we have the right to live good lives BECAUSE of it.
The fact is: if being good does not guarantee sex, plenty of people have a
better chance at having sex by being amoral, like the traditional depiction of
the Joker, doing good things part-time, when it is convenient, and reaping the
benefits of an egalitarian society that rewards good behavior even in people
for whom bad behavior is a totally relative option.
Calling us equals DESPITE the fact
also does no good. Unlike race or gender, (engendered gender, in the original
sense of the word) sex is a choice, like goodness. I used to think that being
virginal made people more attractive by default, since every person who has
ever had sex was a virgin for a long time hitherto. I found you attractive
since I thought that you might be a virgin. You still are, regardless, but I
know now that not everybody feels and thinks this way. Why should I feel
inferior because of it? Simply because in Practice people use their past
experience against me, threatening to turn human sexuality into the sort of
dominance hierarchy we find tragically in other parts of the animal kingdom.
It is healthiest this way: a
balance of extremes. One person may possess an experience which the other may
never have, despite the fact that it would only take the other five minutes to
change this and set the former on the course to outrageous pleasure and success.
The former retains a virtue which the other may never win back in this
lifetime, even by avenue of a willful celibacy. Pardon another vulgar pun, but
I can’t help it: Man’s Extremity is God’s Opportunity. This way, children will
think twice about losing it, and those who do think twice will feel no
insecurity in waiting. The Christians were ingenious, and as millennials we can
retain what they got right and use it against all that they turned into
elitism.
One might ask: but does this not
predispose people to needless guilt? In fact, it dispossesses those people of
guilt who need the comfort most, for we will feel inferior regardless of your
rationalizations, and so long as we are systematically excluded we will find
some moral rationalization by which to blame ourselves, once we have realized
we can’t blame you for having what we want. At least we need not blame
ourselves for wanting what you have!!
Then one might ask: but is this not
a gateway to emotional blackmail and spiritual abuse? You might expect
non-virgins to be lured into compromising circumstances in such a moral
climate, but in fact it is not so. They know they can’t undo their past, so it
is up to them whether to drag their fellows to their level. This way, each time
a non-virgin rejects a virgin, the virgin may smile, for the non-virgin chose
to protect the virgin’s moral superiority, and by the disparity between them
there is genuine equality even in separation. And the non-virgin may be
grateful that the virgin was willing to give all that up out of sheer love,
however myopic the expression might seem (and you must admit that it’s far more
grandiose in this light). The fact is: we do betray our virgin friends when we
become non-virgins, especially when we reject them later and forbid them to
follow in our footsteps. The least one can do is say: it’s for your own good;
you are my superior in virtue, and you’re better off this way, though I may
hurt you. I start to speak in poetry just thinking it.
Alanna wanted me to cope by
believing in God. I did, for some time. But I have someone better now: Myself.
Thanks
for showing me the Light.
Now
you know that it’s All Right.
[({Dm.A.A.)}]